A short break

A group of street performers taking rest at Cologne Cathedral, Germany.

“Activity and rest are two vital aspects of life. To find a balance in them is a skill in itself. Wisdom is knowing when to have a rest, when to have activity, and how much of each to have. Finding them in each other - activity in rest and rest in activity - is the ultimate freedom.” 

Live-in or Marriage?

       Live-in or marriage, which one is the best choice? I think it’s an individual’s choice. Whatever you are comfortable with go for it. Relationship depends on trust. If you have trust, faith and love for  each other then your relationship can survive and become stronger over time.

      But does the society approves live-in relationships. The Supreme court has approved it already, but the society is still not broad minded to accept it. Our Indian culture promotes marriage in which two persons who love each other are bonded together with Vedic rituals and legal contracts. On the other hand live-in system, is a foreign culture and no legal bondings are there. What matters is your comfort. If you are committed enough to spend life together, then whatever you choose the society does not matter at all. 

As for live-in or arrange marriage each one has its pro’s and con’s. 

For live-in relationships

Pro’s                                                              Con’s

- Freedom of choice                                   - Social in-acceptance

- Very less or no responsibility                     - Easy way to walk out

- Financial freedom                                    - Emotional insecurity

- Testing compatibility                               - Respect of marriage missing

- Time to decide compatibility                     - No legal security

- No divorce

For Marriages Pro’s                                     Con’s

- Financial and legal security                     - Divorce

- Social and religious acceptance               - Loss of freedom

- Both strive to be there.                          - Full-time commitment

- Companion to grow old with                  - Compatibility issues can occur.

- Commitment

- Children 

       Still, sometimes marriage is a far better choice for Indian girls than live-in relationships. People can get cheated in any relationship, but when the society accepts you it becomes far easier to stand high and get going.

My 5 Dream Destinations

#My 5 Dream Destinations

Firstly, I should tell you that I am very adventurous. I love travelling the world. I have a long list of my dream destinations. I am a bit romantic just like most girls are ;) So most of my destinations are inspired by the same. But as I have to write down only 5, so here goes the top one’s on my list.

1. Paris

2. Switzerland

3. Rome

4. Niagara falls

5. Las Vegas

And I must tell you I am very lucky to have visited the top 3 destinations on my list.

1.  Paris - The City of Love

          I always dreamt of going to Paris. During college days I always told my friends that one day my prince charming will take me to Paris and propose me in front of the Eiffel. They used to laugh at me then. But my dream came true when my husband took me there and confessed his love again in front of Eiffel. I was on cloud nine.

2.  Switzerland - The city of Alps

          As you all know Switzerland is famous for its Alps, serene lakes, green valleys and snow filled mountains. As a big fan of DDLJ (Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge) movie, there was an addition of the most romantic couple at that time visiting Swiss and enjoying the snow on Mt. Titlis. And my this dream also came true. We really had a great time there and yes, I got my cow bell too. 

3.  Rome - The city of monuments

             Me and my husband have a great attraction of ancient monuments. Also as both of us are huge fans of Dan Brown Novels, we had to visit this city. Vatican City, Colosseum and Trevi fountain were on the top of this city’s list. But I must tell you we also visited most of the sites mentioned in ‘Angels and Demons’ book.

4.  Niagara Falls 

          One of the biggest waterfalls in the world. I believe this fantastic and breathtaking waterfall is worth a visit. It will be a thrilling experience to visit it in summer as well as in winter when it’s completely frozen.

5. Las Vegas - the city of Dreams

            May be you are thinking that this is the city just to get wasted. But I think it’s a unique city built solely for the purpose of entertainment. It’s famous for so many things. Plus, you can see the Eiffel, Canals of Venice, Pyramids of Egypt etc. all at the same place.

I really hope to visit my last two destinations very soon.

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger, Indispire topic : 5 Places you would love to visit in this lifetime

            

  

10 questions I really Hate being asked!!

#10 questions I really Hate being asked

      Different people have different thinking. But I really get frustrated by the following 10 questions. I am a straight forward person. But for these questions I really feel to just keep quiet and stare at the person until he/she feels I am crazy and leave me alone.

1)  Why did you do an intercaste marriage? Were all the boys of your caste already taken?

            Come on, we are living in the 21st century and you are still asking me this caste question. No, I didn’t do an intercaste marriage because all the boys were taken, but the guy I chose was worth more than the 1000 eligible guys of my caste.

2)  Are you really a Maharashtrian, I mean you look Bengali?

            Here I don't get angry because they consider me as a Bengali. But when I have already told them that I am a Maharashtrian they just don’t believe me and keep repeating the same question.

3)  You make so nice paintings and sketches, will you make a sketch of my girlfriend/ boyfriend? I want to give her as a gift!!

           I really hate this question. You want to give it as a gift then please pay me. I have a busy schedule and if you want me to contribute my time to draw your sketch I actually need a compensation. 

4)  Why did you plan a baby so early? Were you having any complications?

           I just can’t believe people actually think like that. More than 50% of girls in India have their 1st baby before they turn 20. And I had mine when I turned 25!! Is it too early? I don’t think so. May be I should ask you, a 33-year-old woman, married 6-7 years ago still not having any kid, are you experiencing any complications? Being highly qualified and career oriented woman doesn’t give you the privilege to ask me this question. So, shut the F*** up!!

5)  When are you coming back to India from abroad or are you going to settle down there?

          Why just why do people ask this question. Are you jealous that I am abroad and you are not. I will return when I feel so. Let me first explore the world. And you didn’t even bother to contact me when I was in India. So just go away.

6)  What do you do all day alone at home? Don’t you get bored?

          Nothing. As currently I am just a housewife, taking care of my 2-year-old kid. I only do the daily household chores. Just cook food 5-6 times a day as my toddler wants different items to eat throughout the day. Give time to my hubby and play with my kid. And the time that’s left to myself, I do drawing, painting, sketches, crafts, photography and write blogs. But for you I just do nothing.

7)  Are going to start working again?

          I have not decided yet. Yes, I was a career oriented before, but now I have a kid. I have my responsibilities towards him. Once I feel he is independent enough, I will think. But again, it’s my decision right?

8)  What are your future plans, are you going to sit at home without any work?

          Same question, but different perspective. Currently I have no future plans. I am enjoying the present. And what do you mean by sitting home without any work. Being a housewife and a mother is a 24*7 job!! 

9)  You make so many crafty things, Doesn’t your husband say anything to you after seeing the mess?

         Thank God my husband is not like you. He encourages me a lot for keeping my hobbies alive. 

10)  Why do you read so many books? Means do you actually remember any story after you read so many of them? 

         Can you believe more than 10 people asked me this question. Yes, yes, I know how you are exactly feeling right now. Please send me the bricks, I will throw them in their Face…

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger, Indispire. Topic: 10 things you hate being asked