10 questions I really Hate being asked!!

#10 questions I really Hate being asked

      Different people have different thinking. But I really get frustrated by the following 10 questions. I am a straight forward person. But for these questions I really feel to just keep quiet and stare at the person until he/she feels I am crazy and leave me alone.

1)  Why did you do an intercaste marriage? Were all the boys of your caste already taken?

            Come on, we are living in the 21st century and you are still asking me this caste question. No, I didn’t do an intercaste marriage because all the boys were taken, but the guy I chose was worth more than the 1000 eligible guys of my caste.

2)  Are you really a Maharashtrian, I mean you look Bengali?

            Here I don't get angry because they consider me as a Bengali. But when I have already told them that I am a Maharashtrian they just don’t believe me and keep repeating the same question.

3)  You make so nice paintings and sketches, will you make a sketch of my girlfriend/ boyfriend? I want to give her as a gift!!

           I really hate this question. You want to give it as a gift then please pay me. I have a busy schedule and if you want me to contribute my time to draw your sketch I actually need a compensation. 

4)  Why did you plan a baby so early? Were you having any complications?

           I just can’t believe people actually think like that. More than 50% of girls in India have their 1st baby before they turn 20. And I had mine when I turned 25!! Is it too early? I don’t think so. May be I should ask you, a 33-year-old woman, married 6-7 years ago still not having any kid, are you experiencing any complications? Being highly qualified and career oriented woman doesn’t give you the privilege to ask me this question. So, shut the F*** up!!

5)  When are you coming back to India from abroad or are you going to settle down there?

          Why just why do people ask this question. Are you jealous that I am abroad and you are not. I will return when I feel so. Let me first explore the world. And you didn’t even bother to contact me when I was in India. So just go away.

6)  What do you do all day alone at home? Don’t you get bored?

          Nothing. As currently I am just a housewife, taking care of my 2-year-old kid. I only do the daily household chores. Just cook food 5-6 times a day as my toddler wants different items to eat throughout the day. Give time to my hubby and play with my kid. And the time that’s left to myself, I do drawing, painting, sketches, crafts, photography and write blogs. But for you I just do nothing.

7)  Are going to start working again?

          I have not decided yet. Yes, I was a career oriented before, but now I have a kid. I have my responsibilities towards him. Once I feel he is independent enough, I will think. But again, it’s my decision right?

8)  What are your future plans, are you going to sit at home without any work?

          Same question, but different perspective. Currently I have no future plans. I am enjoying the present. And what do you mean by sitting home without any work. Being a housewife and a mother is a 24*7 job!! 

9)  You make so many crafty things, Doesn’t your husband say anything to you after seeing the mess?

         Thank God my husband is not like you. He encourages me a lot for keeping my hobbies alive. 

10)  Why do you read so many books? Means do you actually remember any story after you read so many of them? 

         Can you believe more than 10 people asked me this question. Yes, yes, I know how you are exactly feeling right now. Please send me the bricks, I will throw them in their Face…

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger, Indispire. Topic: 10 things you hate being asked

What's In A Name!!

Shakespeare has rightly stated, 

"What's In A Name? That, Which We Call A Rose,

By Any Other Name, Would Smell As Sweet!”

My name is Amruta and I love my name. Amruta is derived from ‘Amrut’ i.e. ‘The drink of immortality’. Amruta is ‘Elixir of life’. Amruta means sweetness. Amruta means immortal. It’s so fantastic.

When I was a child, many people used to taunt me that it's a very common name. I used to hate this feeling that many girls are having the same name as mine.I wanted my name to be unique. I complained the same to my mother, but when she told me the literal meaning of my name I was so happy. And believe me even in my huge circle of friends there is not a single girl named Amruta. How cool is that!!

I believe a name gives you a unique identity. Name is the first thing that becomes your’s after your birth and sticks to you till your last breath and yes even after that. People recognize you by your name. A name, helps you to stand out of the crowd. 

My name means everything to me. I really hate when people change their name just to have a stylish one. I know it’s their choice, but still!! One of my friends got married and her in-laws changed her name. Next day she immediately updated her  name on FB with a fully different name and surname with no traces of the old one. 

I pinged her and asked, “ Hey, why did you change your name?”

She: (excitedly) “Hey, it’s my new name. Isn’t it cool!! “

Me: “ Yeah, But What about your name? The name by which we know you.”

She: “ What’s in a name? The way you got used to my previous name, you will get used to this too.”

Me: “But what if somebody searches by your old name. Nobody would be able to find you.”

She: “I have told my friends about my new name. And I am really loving it. I am going to completely erase my old name.”

Me: “But why. I mean your old name is nice and unique. Won’t you feel lost. I mean all your documents, your birth certificate, your report cards, your achievements, your awards all will have your old name. How will you erase them. If somebody changed my name I would feel like I died. ”

She: “ Err, I don’t know. My sweet hubby has chosen this name for me. How can I say no to him. Btw, I am busy right now. cya.”

I understood she had no answer.

After 5 mins

*Blocked* 

This was the simplest way to avoid me and my doubts. May be I stretched it too far. But are my questions wrong?  Our parents name us. They also might be having some feelings, some stories relating to our name. How can we just forget who we are and start living a new name.  Our name is what we are!! If we can't even respect our name, how can we expect others to respect us.

I am married, but still using my pre-marital name and my husband is all happy with it.

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger. Indispire. topic: What does your name mean to you? Do you like it or hate it? Why? #WhatsInAName