Virginity: Is it really important??

          I don’t believe virginity should be seen as a character certificate for a girl. How can you judge a human being based only on her hymen? I don’t think any girl should be blamed and kept names for losing her virginity. As one of my friends has written “Virginity does not lie in the hymen but in the brain, it’s an attitude, a commitment.” Yes, unless you have trust and commitment and of-course love, virginity does not matter at all.

          We just cannot consider a girl to be characterless if she is not a virgin. There can be so many reasons for the same:

-She got raped

-she is a widow 

-she is an active sport’s person 

-she had a bitter breakup 

-she got cheated by an a**hole.

-she just could not marry her boy due to her/his parent’s denial.  

-she was so poor or helpless to feed her family.

          In any of the above cases, I do not consider the girl’s fault. So why can’t she have a second chance. It takes two to commit the act. And so, if you are considering the girl’s fault, then the boy is also equally responsible for the same. He should also be blamed and not accepted in the society. But we just let go as he is a boy and he can easily fake his virginity.

         Ok, many of you think why in the first place should any girl or boy (no, sorry, only the girl as whatever the boy does is accepted) should have a physical relation before marriage. Well, I think it’s her choice. Sometimes there is so much love that you accept the other person fully and I really don’t find any sin in this. Yes, I do not support one night stands, as there is no love or commitment in it, and involving with any person merely for enjoyment is not justified.

           I actually find it offensive to ask about virginity in marriage proposals. Asking for a test for HIV and STD’s is a sensible question, but how will the boy prove his virginity if asked? It needs trust and love for a relationship to last. I think if you like the girl’s qualities, her qualifications, her likes and dislikes and when she is assuring you a lifetime commitment from her side then why not accept her as your partner. There are girls out there who are virgin, but their qualities and thinkings are like a w*ore. You, a 21’st century modern boy, who wants a highly qualified, smart, intelligent, bold, independent, stylish girl for himself, but she should still be a virgin?!. Do you have these qualities? Are you bold and educated enough to accept and respect her the way she is? IF not, then just get lost….. 

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger, Indispire topic : Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take?