The Nymphs of Paris

The beautiful sculptures of Nymphs (divine spirits) on the Pont Alexandre III bridge built on the Seine river, Paris.

Pont Alexandre III bridge, Paris

An evening in Paris

Just another view of Eiffel Tower with Seine river.

Eiffel Tower, Paris

A Golden Dream

Mercedes G 63 AMG

The horse

A part of Fontana dei Quattro Fiumi at Piazza Navona, Rome

This stone carving of horse is a part of Fontana dei Quattro Fiumi (Fountain of the four rivers) at Piazza Navona, a city square in Rome, ITALY. It is featured in Dan Brown's thriller novel as well as its movie named Angles and Demons

Live-in or Marriage?

       Live-in or marriage, which one is the best choice? I think it’s an individual’s choice. Whatever you are comfortable with go for it. Relationship depends on trust. If you have trust, faith and love for  each other then your relationship can survive and become stronger over time.

      But does the society approves live-in relationships. The Supreme court has approved it already, but the society is still not broad minded to accept it. Our Indian culture promotes marriage in which two persons who love each other are bonded together with Vedic rituals and legal contracts. On the other hand live-in system, is a foreign culture and no legal bondings are there. What matters is your comfort. If you are committed enough to spend life together, then whatever you choose the society does not matter at all. 

As for live-in or arrange marriage each one has its pro’s and con’s. 

For live-in relationships

Pro’s                                                              Con’s

- Freedom of choice                                   - Social in-acceptance

- Very less or no responsibility                     - Easy way to walk out

- Financial freedom                                    - Emotional insecurity

- Testing compatibility                               - Respect of marriage missing

- Time to decide compatibility                     - No legal security

- No divorce

For Marriages Pro’s                                     Con’s

- Financial and legal security                     - Divorce

- Social and religious acceptance               - Loss of freedom

- Both strive to be there.                          - Full-time commitment

- Companion to grow old with                  - Compatibility issues can occur.

- Commitment

- Children 

       Still, sometimes marriage is a far better choice for Indian girls than live-in relationships. People can get cheated in any relationship, but when the society accepts you it becomes far easier to stand high and get going.

Virginity: Is it really important??

          I don’t believe virginity should be seen as a character certificate for a girl. How can you judge a human being based only on her hymen? I don’t think any girl should be blamed and kept names for losing her virginity. As one of my friends has written “Virginity does not lie in the hymen but in the brain, it’s an attitude, a commitment.” Yes, unless you have trust and commitment and of-course love, virginity does not matter at all.

          We just cannot consider a girl to be characterless if she is not a virgin. There can be so many reasons for the same:

-She got raped

-she is a widow 

-she is an active sport’s person 

-she had a bitter breakup 

-she got cheated by an a**hole.

-she just could not marry her boy due to her/his parent’s denial.  

-she was so poor or helpless to feed her family.

          In any of the above cases, I do not consider the girl’s fault. So why can’t she have a second chance. It takes two to commit the act. And so, if you are considering the girl’s fault, then the boy is also equally responsible for the same. He should also be blamed and not accepted in the society. But we just let go as he is a boy and he can easily fake his virginity.

         Ok, many of you think why in the first place should any girl or boy (no, sorry, only the girl as whatever the boy does is accepted) should have a physical relation before marriage. Well, I think it’s her choice. Sometimes there is so much love that you accept the other person fully and I really don’t find any sin in this. Yes, I do not support one night stands, as there is no love or commitment in it, and involving with any person merely for enjoyment is not justified.

           I actually find it offensive to ask about virginity in marriage proposals. Asking for a test for HIV and STD’s is a sensible question, but how will the boy prove his virginity if asked? It needs trust and love for a relationship to last. I think if you like the girl’s qualities, her qualifications, her likes and dislikes and when she is assuring you a lifetime commitment from her side then why not accept her as your partner. There are girls out there who are virgin, but their qualities and thinkings are like a w*ore. You, a 21’st century modern boy, who wants a highly qualified, smart, intelligent, bold, independent, stylish girl for himself, but she should still be a virgin?!. Do you have these qualities? Are you bold and educated enough to accept and respect her the way she is? IF not, then just get lost….. 

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger, Indispire topic : Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take?

Apple of my eye

Warhol style pop art portrait of my son Aayan on canvas by me.

This portrait on canvas was very complex for me, but still have tried my level best to make it as good as my sweet little kid.

Warhol style pop art portrait

Love Birds !!

My first Canvas painting

Love Birds 

Life with Indiblogger

#Life with Indiblogger

          Finally, I am back from India after a long and a much required relaxed break. And here I am back to  blogging again only because of Indiblogger.  The people and their posts on indiblogger inspire me a lot. I had created my blog back in 2011. But due to lack of response and admiration had stopped posting. I just used to write down my feelings and thoughts in my scrapbook. Now when I had totally forgotten about my blog, one of my old friend asked about it and suggested to join Indiblogger. 

         Now even though I have very few posts on my blog and am just a novice, still I have a confidence to compose my thoughts and post them for others to read and comment. Here I can actually get feedback on my blog and learn and improve with the help of others. Yes, there are so like minded people present here who really want to read things I write. 

       

          Indiblogger has forced me to give more and more time to blogging. I know I have a long way to go, but daily I get motivated by so many indibloggers and it really makes a huge difference to me. I personally like the In’dispire very much. It gives many good topics for novice like me who sometimes cannot think of anything good to write about. 

I really thank Indiblogger for this fantastic initiative and creating a great platform for writers.

This blog is written as a part of Indiblogger, Indispire topic : Life before IndiBlogger and with IndiBlogger. Compare.