If I had two extra hours in a day, I would...

                Life has become so fast and so hectic. We all are struck in between office - home -office. There is no time for friends, family, no social life and no personal life. After returning from a long day's work we just sit on the couch in front of the TV, have dinner and go to bed. Again next day the same routine starts. We don't even chat with family members. Are we so exhausted that we can't even sit for 10 minutes with our family?

                I am a live example of the above. Not that I am happy with the same or that I have chosen it.  Me and my spouse both work in MNC. I am working in general shift and he is in second shift. That means we get a very small amount of time to spend with each other. When he returns home late we just have our dinner, watch TV for some time and go to bed. There is no time left for us to spend together. If I had extra 2 hrs in a day I really would like to spend a quality time with him. Chatting, sharing our daily good and bad experiences, cracking jokes and most of all experiencing the happiness by being really close to him not just by his presence.

                We would also get time to spend with our to-be-born child (as I am expecting). We can discuss about our baby's growth, plan things that we would do together when our baby arrives. We can read books together and tell stories to our baby and teach good things (like Abhimanyu learnt in his mother's womb :) ) and tell the baby how much we love him and how eager we are to receive him. We can just get excited to predict whether it’s a baby boy or a girl. Discuss things that will happen when we will see our child for the first time, all the things that will happen for the first time, our child's first word, his first step!! And how we will be cherishing these wonderful moments.  Just imagining about all these things are making me feel so good.

                So that's the answer for all the extra time I will get. Family should always be first and all my time will be for the two most important people in my life my hubby and my unborn baby. Off course I will try to take out time from the current schedule too as all the above things will just create a healthy relationship between us.

Making Life Happier

Suddenly it starts raining on Sunday.

 "Oh fish, how come it’s raining in summer? Now we have to cancel our plan...” she said.

They both were ready to go out. She was planning of this day for weeks.  She got very furious and was cursing the rain.

He held her close in his arms and said "It's ok dear we will wait for some time. This rain will stop soon. It’s not late yet".

 "NO, IT WON’T!! Whenever I make any plan to spend any quality time with u something or the other happens. It’s been 5 months since we went out together and enjoyed. But today it shouldn’t be like this. Come’ on it’s our 1st marriage anniversary and we wont be able to celebrate it. Hell with this rain."

  "Oh come-on we can celebrate any time. We are together now right. We can enjoy this weather. See its feeling like rainy season; just prepare some pakodas and tea".

 "See this is what happens when we are at home. I am always busy in kitchen; even I need some free time dear".

"So, am I responsible for the rain??"

Now she gets furious n says, "Yes you are!!! You never want to take me out and hence such things happen.”

 "Think whatever you want I don’t want to convince you and talk to you too".

 "Neither do I !!!"

And thus they quarrel and stop talking to each other and their holiday and celebration both gets ruined.

       

        But Why does this happen?  Don't they love each other? Yes they do but this happens due to the small time span that they get to share with each other. Don't you think it’s similar to your story? Yes it’s the story of all of us in some way or the other. This scene is in every home where there is a working couple. Sometimes this situation is due to heavy work load which we can’t avoid but sometimes people who run behind money mostly face these situations.

        If she is asking to go out is she wrong? No, she isn't. She just needs a change from the daily routine. And if the plan gets cancelled due to rain is he responsible. No he too is not. It’s just that in the daily hectic schedule we don't get time to talk and spend time with each other and then we get frustrated. We get up early in the morning, rush out to office and come home late at night, have dinner, watch TV for some time and/or directly go to sleep. And again the same routine starts.            

       

        Is money so important?  Should we run behind money and make our family sad. Can we be happy if our family is not happy? Is this life?? No it’s surely not. Then how can we avoid this situation?  Firstly stop running behind money. Money can’t buy everything. And secondly this situation can’t be avoided but we can find a solution to it.  We just have to take out some time from our schedule for our family. This doesn’t always mean going out and travelling. This means doing work together, helping each other in their work. If the couple is working then both of them are equally tired after coming home from office. So, they can cook together, can have dinner together. Without wasting their valuable time in front of the idiot box they can play indoor as well as outdoor games. We can go out for a walk together hand in hand. And then whenever we get time we can go out for a trip. Small trips can also be refreshing and energizing. And most of all lack of conversation is root cause of all the misunderstandings so, try to talk as much as possible. Share your day to day experiences with your spouse and family. Let them also enjoy the fun.

These are just few tips to have a healthy and happy home environment. Coz family and loved ones always come first. So if they are satisfied then our life will be full of happiness and we will be the richest men on the earth…